Tumbling Fae

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I have a few friends who are straight male dominants, and they’re both feminists. They fight rape culture, work for pro-choice causes, and check their privilege as needed. They’re happy to work under women, and listen to women, hell they’re friends with female dominants, and even though they don’t play with these women, they respect them and treat them as equals. So, how can these good, decent, kind hearted, egalitarian men enjoy tying up their girlfriends and beating them?

Because their girlfriends consent, because their girlfriends enjoy it. It’s not about man dominating woman because he’s man and she’s woman and that’s how it goes. It’s about two lovers, one who is sexually aroused by delivering pain/dominance/etc and another who is sexually aroused by receiving pain/dominance/etc.
BDSM is PLAY - Thoughts From The Peacock Angel (via sexisnottheenemy)

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i always knew that i liked to watch, and secretly be watched

You Scored as Exhibitionist / Voyeur

(((Note: This has been placed into one category because the world of BDSM is simply too large to include all kink (unless you want an incredibly long quiz). I have included these two together with the sentiment that couples or people interested in one or the other want to include other people in their sexual activities. I understand that it is unfair but I plan on making more quizzes on subjects of this nature in the future. Also, I know that this quiz is very sexually based but that was the point of it, I was going for the psychologically aspects of sexuality for the list is a mile long and different for everyone.))) Watching or being watched is an arousing notion to you. There are many reasons why people enjoy this fetish. Being uncomfortable. Feeling guilty. Appreciation. For some it could simply be sex in public because there is a fear of getting caught. Either way, it turns you on. The best venue for this would be group sex. If you enjoy watching you would be considered a voyeur. If you would rat

Exhibitionist / Voyeur 100%

Experimental 86%

Switch 75%

Masochist 64%

Submissive 61%

Bondage 61%

Degradation Lover 61%

Sadist 57%

Dominant 43%

Vanilla 18%

100%!! how’s that for a definitive result!!

h/t http://curvaceousdee.com/?p=973

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[…] for half my childhood, and most of my life as a young adult, I associated my desires and fantasies with abuse. Only abusers want to hit other people, only abusers want to control people, only abusers want to make people cry and scream. […] Consent is a factor, not to be trivialized, but is not the defining factor. […]There is a fundamental difference between doing something out of pyschological torment, rage, terror, desolation, hate, and doing something out of joy, connection, fun, affection, love. That the logistics of giving and obeying an order, of binding and being bound, of an object hitting flesh might superficially resemble each other, is irrelevant.

The Difference Between BDSM and Abuse is Not Just Consent « beyond the hills

I recommend reading the whole link, for more context. I’m highlighting portions of it here because it’s close to what I was trying to allude here, at the end. I’m still too scared to address that at the moment. But yeah this is pretty close.

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